Hi, I’m Kathryn
Therapist | Facilitator | Mother of Two
For most of my life, I felt like I was at war with myself.
Not in ways that were obvious from the outside. I was capable, driven, spiritually curious. I did the work, therapy, yoga, years of personal development, years of meditation. I understood myself, probably better than most people around me did.
And yet something still felt fractured underneath all of it. In my relationships, in my body, in my sense of my own worth. No matter how much I learned or achieved, I couldn't outrun the feeling that something was fundamentally wrong with me.
So I kept adding more: more tools, more effort, more insight, more trying, as if the right amount of trying would eventually be the thing that settled it.
What I've come to believe, both through my own life and through years of clinical practice, is that this was never a knowledge problem. Understanding yourself and actually being met by yourself are two different things, and most of us have only ever been taught how to do the first. How to analyse, manage, override, and improve our way through our own inner world, rather than actually turn toward it.
I've built House of Self from that understanding. Not as another self-improvement project dressed up in softer language, but as a body of work devoted to something slower: a return to presence, to inner trust, to Self.
Helping women build a relationship with themselves that is secure enough to support the life they want to live.
You're here because something inside you knows there's more.
Not more to achieve, fix, or understand, but more to you. More life, more truth, more contact with your own body, more capacity to live from the part of you that isn't constantly managing, bracing, pleasing, performing, or preparing for something to go wrong.
On paper, things look fine, maybe even beautiful. You're thoughtful, capable, self-aware, the kind of emotionally literate person other people come to for support, the one who "gets it." And still, there's a low hum of exhaustion that doesn't go away, a disconnection you can't quite name, a sense that you're present in your life without being fully inside yourself.
This is where my work begins.
I work with women who are done carrying the weight of their own self-management. The ones who second-guess themselves, over-give in relationships, perform "okayness," get caught in shame spirals, or feel like imposters inside lives they've worked hard to build. We don't begin by adding more; we begin by listening to what's already here.
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Most of us have been taught to approach change like a project. Fix the pattern, identify the block, try harder, do more, understand it better. That approach has been shaped by the systems and cultures around us, and it will only ever get you so far.
Real change tends to happen somewhere else: in the pause, in the moment you stop analysing and actually let yourself be with what's here, in the shift from doing something to yourself toward actually being with yourself. Those two things are not the same, even though they can look identical from the outside.
At the heart of my work is Internal Family Systems, a model that understands we're all made up of parts, inner protectors, wounded places, and beneath all of it, a calm and clear Self that has never actually left. IFS doesn't ask you to fix or manage your parts. It asks you to meet them, with curiosity, with compassion, and without shame.
Find out more about Internal Family Systems here.
Alongside IFS, I draw on:
Attachment theory and relational work
Somatic and embodiment practices
Yin yoga, contemplative traditions and presence-based spiritual inquiry
I don’t see these as separate techniques stacked on top of each other, but as different doorways into the same thing: returning to the truth of who you already are, underneath the version of you that was shaped by survival.
Whether you're moving through grief, burnout, a transition, or something you can't quite name yet, this is the kind of work that meets you there.
Training & Experience
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Bachelor of Science (Health Science) — Curtin University
Masters in Occupational Therapy — Curtin University
Certifications & Training
Thinking Heart 16-Week IFS Intensive — David Stern & Sigrid Kulkowitz
Nuance and Attunement in IFS — Stephanie Mitchell
Foundations of IFS — Stephanie Mitchell
Richard Schwartz In-Session IFS Masterclass Series — Healing Trauma & PTSD
Frank Anderson's IFS Trauma Treatment Program — 4-Month Online Intensive
IFS Institute Online Circle Program
NARM Complex Trauma Training
Spiral Practitioner — The Spiral School of Awakening
I bring both formal training and lived experience to this work.
For those who want the full picture:
The work doesn't stop here.
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