The Field

A 12-week relational process group for women.

The inner work got you here. This is what takes you further.

Work with Kathryn Grace | IFS Intensives
Australia and Online Worldwide

The insight is there.

The contact isn't.

We are living in an age of extraordinary disconnection.

Not because we're alone, most of us are more connected than ever, by every measurable standard. But there is a quality of contact that is quietly disappearing from ordinary life. The kind that happens when two people are fully in the room together, not half-present, not performing, not managing how they're being perceived. Just genuinely there, with each other, letting something real pass between them.

You feel this. You feel it in the friendships that are warm but somehow thin. In the intimacy that reaches a certain depth and then stalls there. In the conversations where you said all the right things and still drove home feeling like you hadn't quite shown up. Technology hasn't caused this entirely, but it has accelerated something that was already happening, a slow drift away from the discomfort and the beauty of real human contact.

The Field exists because this is the work the moment is asking for. Not more content to consume, not another framework to understand yourself through. A room. Real women. Ninety minutes of actual presence, together, every week for twelve weeks.

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What happens in the room

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The Field is a process group, which means it works differently from anything you've probably done before. There is no teaching here, no curriculum, no framework to absorb. I won't be explaining anything or guiding you through structured exercises. What I will be doing is holding a container. A very specific, very intentional kind of space, and then letting what is true for the group come forward.

The foundation of this work is a principle from interpersonal process group theory: the way you show up in a room with other people is the same way you show up everywhere. Not a version of it. Not a rough approximation. The same. Over the weeks, without any effort to engineer it, the truth of how you relate begins to surface. The way you go quiet when something lands too close. The way you turn the conversation back to someone else just as attention is coming your way. The way you over-explain, or under-speak, or laugh at the exact moment something serious is being felt.

These are the same moves you make in your closest friendships, in your intimate relationships, in the moments that matter most. They just become visible here, in a way they almost never are in ordinary life.

And when something becomes visible in a room full of women who are genuinely present (not managing, not performing, not being careful), something else becomes possible. You can make a different move. Stay when you'd normally leave. Speak when you'd normally smooth things over. Receive something when you'd normally deflect it. The group becomes the place where a different story about relationship actually gets lived, not just understood.

That's the work. It's relational, it's honest and there is nothing else quite like it.

You know yourself. That's not the problem.

You have spent real time on yourself. You've been in therapy, maybe for years. You've done the somatic work, sat with your shadows, read the books. You can describe your patterns with a precision that sometimes surprises even you. You know where it comes from. You know what it costs you.

And still. Your relationships don't feel the way you want them to feel. Not because anything terrible is happening in them. Just because there's a surface you can't seem to break through, a depth you approach and then, almost automatically, retreat from.

You aren't broken. You are doing what you learned to do. You adapted, early and intelligently, to the relational environments you grew up in. You learned to read rooms, manage other people's emotional temperature, make yourself palatable, stay one careful step ahead of conflict or the slow withdrawal of love. Those adaptations were survival. What they cost you now is contact… real, unmanaged, unguarded contact with another person.

You cannot heal a relational wound in isolation. The work has to happen where the wound actually lives, between you and another person, in real time.

That is what The Field is.

“We are built for connection, and nothing is more important to our well-being and health than deep and meaningful relatedness”

— Irvin Yalom

You've done significant inner work and you have genuine self-awareness but something in your relationships still isn't moving, and you're starting to wonder if you've been trying to fix a relational problem with a solo solution.

You can feel the difference between actually being present with someone and going through the motions of it. The gap between those two things has started to matter to you in a way you can't ignore.

You want your friendships, your intimate relationships, your everyday interactions to feel real not curated, not managed, not careful. REAL.

You understand, at least somewhere in yourself, that this kind of work is sacred. That what moves between two people in genuine contact is one of the most honest arenas for growth there is.

You're ready to be seen, not just to talk about being seen, but to actually let it happen (this includes if you are ready to be seen, yet still terrifyingly scared of it).

Real contact between people, when it's unguarded, when something true is actually passing between them, is one of the most spiritual experiences available to us. Most of us just haven't had a container designed to make it possible.

This is for you if

The Structure

12 weeks · 90 minutes, weekly · Online, live · $400 per month

Ninety minutes, once a week, for twelve weeks. The session is the work, and the work is what happens between the women in the room.

Group size is small by intention, large enough for the relational field to become complex and interesting, small enough that no one can stay invisible for long. There is an application process, because the coherence and readiness of the group matters enormously to how well this works. I read every application personally.

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FAQs

  • If you're asking that question, you're probably closer to ready than you think. You don't need any prior experience with group work to join The Field. What you do need is a genuine willingness to show up, not perfectly, not without fear, but honestly. The group is designed to meet you where you are. Readiness doesn't mean the absence of anxiety about it. It means the desire to move toward something real is stronger than the pull to stay comfortable.

  • This is one of the most common fears women bring to this work.
    You will not be asked to perform vulnerability or share before you're ready. The group moves at the pace of trust, and trust builds naturally when people are genuinely present with each other, which is exactly what this container is designed to create. What most women find, usually earlier than they expect, is that the strangers in the room start to feel like some of the most honest relationships they have. Because everyone is here for the same reason. Nobody is pretending.

  • The Field is not therapy, and I want to be clear about that distinction. It doesn't diagnose, treat, or provide clinical mental health support. What it does is create the conditions for real relational healing, which is its own profound thing. Where therapy often focuses on your inner world and your history, The Field focuses on what is happening between people right now, in real time. The past shows up, because it always does in relationship. But the primary material is the present moment, what you're noticing, what you're avoiding, what's moving in the room right now.

  • Relational work can stir things up, that's part of how it works. I hold the container with care and with training, and the group is designed to be challenging without being destabilising. If something significant surfaces for you, I will help you navigate it. If at any point it becomes clear that individual support would serve you better alongside the group, I'll say so directly and help you find it. You won't be left alone with anything that comes up.

  • Yes, and you might find it particularly valuable. Many of the women drawn to The Field are in the helping professions, women who are extraordinarily skilled at holding space for others and have very little experience being held themselves. The relational patterns that show up in this work are often most pronounced in people who have spent years in service to others. This is not a professional development offering, it's personal work. Come as a woman, not as a practitioner.

  • The full container is twelve weeks, and I ask that you come in with genuine intention to complete it. The group develops its own relational field over time, which means the work deepens the longer you're in it, and an early departure affects not just your own experience but the group's. That said, life happens, and I'm always willing to have an honest conversation if something significant changes. The application process exists partly for this reason, to make sure the commitment is real before you begin.

  • The first step is submitting an application, there's a short form where you'll share a little about yourself, where you are in your inner work, and what's drawing you to The Field right now. I read every application personally, and I'm not looking for the right answers. I'm looking for genuine readiness and a sense of whether this particular group is the right container for you at this particular moment in your life.

    If it feels like a fit, I'll reach out and we'll have a short conversation before you commit. A chance for you to ask anything you need to ask, and for me to get a sense of who you are beyond what's on the page.

    If the timing isn't right, or if something else would serve you better right now, I'll tell you that honestly. There's no sales pitch here. The Field works because the women in it are ready for it, and I take that seriously from the very first point of contact.

    The next cohort is forming now. If something in this page has been speaking to you, that's worth paying attention to.

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